Irons in the Fire

I have too many irons in my fire. I like to be busy, and since I’m not working, I have to make my own busy … and I’m doing too many things not well enough lately.

  • I have writing to do.
  • I have bullet journaling to do.
  • I have blog posts to draft.
  • I have a house that needs a fall-cleaning.
  • I have laundry that needs washing, drying, folding, and away-putting.
  • I have a to-do list that needs attacking.

I’m not doing any of these at 100%, and in fact, some of them are being thrown by the wayside (when was the last time I wrote?) to handle other things. I want three irons and three fires. I need to consolidate my brain into little compartments full of tasks and open a SINGLE drawer at a time.

I’ve spent the past two or three years wondering if I don’t have adult attention deficit disorder. I am a Gemini, so my mind is always going in 93,000 directions at the same time, but I’m almost to the point where I can’t get anything done even when they’re little goals. I need a new mindset. Time to find a book.

 

Imperfection is perfection

Years ago when Brene Brown first spoke on vulnerability, a friend sent me the video as inspiration. I regularly watch this 20-minute TED talk on shame, vulnerability, honesty, and growth because Brown’s words are poignant, powerful, and encouraging.

 

“the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they’re worthy of love and belonging. That’s it. They believe they’re worthy. And to me, the hard part of the one thing that keeps us out of connection is our fear that we’re not worthy of connection,”

My inner critic is skilled at telling me I’m not worthy of the great things I offered or received. She’s also practiced at reminding me that I deserve anything (and everything) negative that comes my way. She’s kind of a bitch, actually.

So, why can’t I shut up the critic inside? Well, first of all she’s been a part of me since I was a child … it’s hard to let go of a life-long frenemy. Second, if my inner critic doesn’t tell me my writing is crap, someone else will have to. That means another human will know I’m not perfect. I can’t have that! Third, if I rid myself of my inner critic, might someone worse invite themselves in? Would I be able to handle someone who talked even more terribly to me?

I’m working on learning to live with my inner critic. I talk to her, tell her to shove off, to shut up, to jump off a cliff, and I derisively laugh at her when she’s wrong. (Yanno, she’s actually wrong quite a bit.) I’m working on asking her “WHO CARES?” when she talks shit to me. If I don’t care, does it really matter if others do? I’m learning to not care.

I’ve learned to notice when she pops into my consciousness, why she’s present, and I can almost count on the actual words that she says to me. I’ve realized that no matter how loudly she announces “You’re not enough,” I can stick my tongue out at her sassier, flip her the bird more fiercely, or kick her in the teeth even harder. When she plays a movie of  my failures and mistakes, I can mute her, smash the speakers, or simply unplug the electricity. I’m learning to work around her.

If my inner critic were a solid-body woman in my life, I would flat out refuse to be her friend. If I spoke to you the way she speaks to me, you wouldn’t want to be my friend either. I’m learning to talk back to her.

these folks had, very simply, the courage to be imperfect. They had the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others, because, as it turns out, we can’t practice compassion with other people if we can’t treat ourselves kindly.

I am imperfect.

We are all imperfect.

I’m going to learn to be okay being imperfect.

Make your vegetables interesting

Thankfully I live in a house where everyone loves vegetables, but so many of my friends and family members struggle to get leafy greens and vibrant produce into household bellies.

broccoli-cauliflower-628x363I accidentally discovered a way to make vegetables so palatable that the three-year-0ld asks to have more… and then requests you “please put these broccolis in my lunch!” When your pre-schooler asks for (cold) broccoli leftovers, you know you’ve done something right.

So, what do I do?

Crave-worthy Cruciferous Vegetables

  1. mince half a yellow onion
  2. mince four cloves of garlic
  3. toss 2 tablespoons of butter and your onion and garlic into a stock pot
  4. turn on high heat, let sizzle until you can smell the yumminess
  5. pour cup of water (or chicken stock!) into the stock pot and bring to a boil; put on lid
  6. once thoroughly boiling, add 1/2 teaspoon of salt (to water; if you use stock, you may not need salt) and a dash of pepper
  7. dump 1-inch pieces of cauliflower, broccoli, or other steam-able vegetable into pot
  8. add enough water/stock to float vegetables, put on lid, bring to a roiling boil and then TURN OFF STOVE
  9. leave stockpot lidded and on stove burner for ten or so minutes to steam vegetables
  10. strain when tender to your liking, leaving onions and garlic mixed into the cooked vegetables

Serve piping hot, or cold as leftovers in lunch.

 

What do you do to vegetables to make them interesting?

Think healthy thoughts

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Ghandi had it right.

“Your beliefs become your thoughts,

Your thoughts become your words,

Your words become your actions,,

Your actions become your habits,

Your habits become your values,

Your values become your destiny.”

What do you believe in? What are you thinking about? What are you saying? What are you doing? What do you value? You have choices; make them good, even if they’re little.

The little choices add up. Make them count.

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